We are here to try and comfort you the best we can during this time of loss. Grief support can help you heal after the hurt of losing a loved one.
What is Grief?
Grief is a natural response to loss. It is the emotional suffering one feels when something or someone the individual loves is taken away. It is not just an emotional response, but also a physical, cognitive, social and behavioural response to a loss of something or someone significant. It is an experience that we face one day a time.
The Five Stages of Grief:
The five stages are a part of the framework that makes up our journey towards learning to live without the one we lost. They are tools to help us frame and identify what we may be feeling. The stages are not felt or experience in a linear fashion, as you may feel one, then another, and back again.
Denial: “This can’t be happening to me.”
This is the first stage of grief and helps us to survive our loss. Everything surrounding our lives becomes meaningless and life doesn’t make sense. We are in a state of shock and denial. As you go through this stage, you start to accept the reality and ask questions, but the feelings you held down now begin to surface.
Anger: “Why is this happening? Who is to blame?”
The second stage may seem endless, but if you are willing and allow yourself to feel the anger, the better and faster you will heal. Anger is a cover for the many other emotions you are feeling, and it is used to manage that underlying pain. Soon your anger will dissipate and you will move into the third stage.
Bargaining: “I would do __ to take this back.”
During this stage, we would do anything to not feel the pain we are experiencing. We want live to be like it was before, before our loss. Our guilt is often the underlying reason for this stage, and we find fault in ourselves for the “what ifs” and try to negotiate our way out of pain.
Depression: “I’m too sad to do anything.”
After trying to stay in the past, our attention is brought fully to the present. We feel empty and feel our grief on a very deep level, so we withdraw from life and go through a period of intense sadness that feels like it will never come to an end.
Acceptance: “I’m at peace with what happened.”
The last stage is accepting the reality of your loss, that your loved one is gone and it is permanent. We learn to live with our loss, and learn to reorganize roles or tasks that are different than they were before. Even after acceptance, they are periods we feel guilty in enjoying our life as we feel we are betraying our loved one. But we realize our loved one can never be replaced, but we can make new connections and enjoy new experiences and begin to reach out to others and become more involved in the outside world and relationships.
The journey of dealing with grief is unique to each person. No matter where your loved one’s funeral arrangements took place, Jennifer is ready to assist you in your healing journey any way she can. On a difficult journey, a good road map makes all the difference.